"As embarrassing as those time are now I'm 23 I'd be lying if I didn't say that some of those years where the best of my life, back when N-Dubz were cool, S-Club 7 were probably big and we can't not mention the Jane Norman bags that took over school."
I got thinking the other day about growing up, something we all go through and something that we all experience. Everyone experiences a different childhood and most of us get to an age where we are finally aloud to go to the park alone, just you and your friends; the rule back then would be to return home once the street lights are lit. Usually £2 would be your daily limit so you'd stock up on Fredo's (before they became a pound!) and have a whale of a time on the park.
You see there's some memories of thing's we as kids used to do without a single person blinking an eyelid, try that in 2017 and goodness knows what would happen. It seems the older I become the worse this world becomes, does peace even exist any more? I can no longer walk down certain streets without feeling slightly on edge, let alone the whole smiling at strangers thing that's gone out the window.
I guess danger along with anxiety has become a way of life, we have slowly somehow adapted to the fact we aren't always as safe as we'd like to think; I guess things change ey. Anyway that's not something I wish to focus on here, I think it would be much better to focus on "old times" instead. (sounds fun to me)
Growing up, memories, trends and advice to youngsters
When I was growing up I remember a certain stage I went through so well and I guess I'd like to share that with you, everyday I would wake up with one wish every morning; growing up quicker. I'm sure I can't be alone here right? You guys had this stage too? I'd wish for the nights I could stay out later than when the street lights come on, wish that instead of playing on the swings in a park I could be going to clubs. I'd wish for the days I'd be able to drink legally instead of in the park with friends, I always longed the independence I thought I not only wanted but needed.
If you experienced this, what's the one thing you 'd always wish you could change? Was it to earn your own money, independence, bring able to drink legally etc; let me know in the comments below. (Get involved!)
I used to long for the days of living alone, just me and my boyfriend, being able to spend the night together instead of them having to leave when my parents say so. I'm sure some of you will get this or maybe not this exact situation but there has to be something you'd constantly want. You know what I'm on about, I'm sure of that because it happens to every child, you go from playing with Barbies, dollies or action men to suddenly wanting to mimic mummy's and daddy's or schools - you get the drift. But only eventually you become bored of pretending and instead you simply wish it would hurry up!
Now I know that age 13-15 (teen years) were where this really begun properly, I'd do everything I could to try and look older than I was. Only our resources back then weren't contour kits.. instead we had the good old Dream Matte Mouse, bright coloured eye shadow (white, blue, pink if I remember rightly) clumpy lashes where a thing and of course the all important pale pink lipstick. Of course back then, the foundation tones were limited so everyone would either look more like a crazy Umpa Lumpa or a ghost and no closer to 18! Oh of course we can't forget the all important sweep side fringe; the bigger the better, I'm pretty sure every girl in my year at my school and others will remember this one.
As embarrassing as those time are now I'm 23 I'd be lying if I didn't say that some of those years where the best of my life, back when N-Dubz were cool, S-Club 7 were probably big and we can't not mention the Jane Norman bags that took over school (Netherhall School for sure) Oh of course the pearl necklaces and pointless belts that went over everything and anything! - I mean I'm sure these trends where a thing for everyone back then and not just my school.. so let me know if I've forgotten to mention any important trends below.
Millennial kid's seem so much luckier if you ask me with fashion trends, beauty products, the power of the internet sensation; as believe it or not we weren't bought up staring at screens... oh no that's another thing we've adjusted to! With Mac, contour kits and today's fashion I believe today's kids have a much easier time pulling off looking older than they are, I guess that the possibilities are also much wider now with the internet alone. I'll admit I'm slightly jealous that we didn't have iPhones with the best camera's to capture our beauty, instead we made deal with the flip phones and over editing our photo's horrendously. (writing iloveyou in text on your selfie, was apparently a thing back then)
Oh gosh we haven't even mentioned the actual clothing pieces we swore where fashion and on trend, there was the McKenzie Jackets, Scarf's made into a triangle at the front (looked more like bibs), the Nike Jackets that looked more like bin bags and we can't forget the High Top's. That's enough, I can't let myself physically cringe at the thought of many more; gosh what were we thinking?
So enough of the trends, I want to go back to the part where you spend so many of your childhood/teenage years wishing them away, by focusing more on being older. The thing is at the time you won't realise that all your doing is wishing the time you have away, these years will be some of the best years of your life. believe me, when you suddenly turn into an adult (age isn't always a factor, it's based on maturity) you'll wish you cherished these years, because you'll never get them back.
Adulthood isn't fun, you spend hours of your day working to earn money to live, you have less and less times to spend on yourself, £2 wouldn't even buy you a thing that would fill you up (suddenly sweets don't work alone) drinking from a bottle of Lambrini on the swings is a no no and all you do is moan. Moan about how tired you are, for another adult to agree, moan about work problems, bills money and wishing money tree's exist. Now your'e over 18 you'll pay anything from £50-£100 just for a good night out on the town,getting wasting to simply forget most of what happened when you wake up.
Not to mention the fact your body can no longer tolerate mixing drinks and my god you wait for the hangovers to kick in, anything you ever thought was one before the age of 20 doesn't even come close to a real hangover. You for some reason start to like coffee, even though before 18 you were convinced it was revolting and you'd never drink it.. only now you'll have at least 3 cups a day! Kid's read these words very carefully,
ADULTHOOD IS A TRAP, it's full of stress, responsibilities and forcing yourself to do things when you'd
rather stay in bed.
So dear millennials and generations after, this is your warning, stay as young as you possibly can for as long as you can, cherish your freedom, make memories through climbing trees, making dens.. Follow stupid trends or better yet dress how the hell you want without feeling you have to fit in and lastly live your childhood years to the absolute fullest you possibly can!
Stop wasting the best years of your life away, just like me and so many others by wishing to "grow up" respect your elders (they only give you a hard time because you get it easy and adulating is harder than it looks) some things like manors, smiles + opening doors for others still exist and cost nothing. Eat whatever the hell you want, because soon this will be a thing of the past, go out while you can with as little money as possible and no alcohol. Sleep, now sleep is something you'll hear adults moaning about regularly so trust me sleep as much as you possibly can and for as long as you can; set yourself records if need be because this will no longer be an acceptable thing! Most importantly and the last piece of advice I'd like you to take from
this is, STOP FOCUSING ON THE FUTURE!
I hope you've enjoyed this post, found it useful and took something away from this, remember if you have any particular memories you'd like to share in the comments section you can do so - from fashion trends to things you wished for most.
Here's some examples of the old trends in case you wanted to physically see the things I speak about! THROWBACKS
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