The Emptiness - Wilde Like Me

"At some point in life you are likely to experience a break up, even if you're young and maybe don't think your deeply in love, you will probably relate to feeling 'the emptiness'. You know the time when you're sat in bed alone after the break up and your head seems to want to replay memories of your lover over and over, resulting in you
feeling alone.."

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I decided to have a little break after publishing
​ a-daughters-perspective. to be totally honest I was a little blown away from the response this post received, this was a very personal post and slightly different from the others as I focused purely on myself. I wasn't sure on what to expect when I hit publish, it's safe to say my views sky rocketed and messages came flooding in. So just quickly it's only right I thank those of you for reading this post, to those of you who reached out to me and just genuinely for the support from you guys; it honestly blows my mind! I'm so truly grateful to be able to share the things I do on my little internet space, be able to do so without feeling judged badly is incredible and I hope you guy's realise how
much I appreciate you.

Today I want to share something a little different than my usual posts, if you follow me on Instagram www.instagram.com/thatbridgegirl_amy/ then you'll know I've been reading 'Wilde Like Me' by Louise Pentland. Now I wont lie I bought this book impulsively for £5, I didn't really know much about it but knew I wanted a new read. Normally however I'll start a book, get bored and ditch it before I'm even half way through.

This though was different, I honestly wanted the time to be able to read this book all day every day, I never wanted to put it down (of course without the luxury of reading all day) I instead picked it up whenever I had a few moments to my self available. I was secretly happy whenever Cal had to spend the evening editing his video's, because I knew it meant I could sit beside him with a candle burning while I loose myself in the book - I was honestly so hooked!

I want to talk to you about Robin's emptiness; as a single parent she find herself feeling lonely and getting with the wrong type of men. As a 23 year old girl with no children and certainly not single I presumed I wouldn't be able to connect with the book properly as obviously I'm not in the same shoes nor experiencing being a
​single parent.

To my own surprise, I did connect with Robin, not on the parenting side, no but I connected with 'the emptiness', for me it was refreshing to read a book with shared feelings, she was totally honest and open. I didn't feel lonely when reading the book, instead as a reader I felt like I was Robin's friend I felt like someone else understood me and I understood her too. I'm sure everyone experiences 'the emptiness' at least once in their life, it's unavoidable but everyone's experience will be slightly differently.. I'm not talking about depression or mental health, as I personally feel that 'the emptiness' doesn't link to depression in everyone.

At some point in life you are likely to experience a break up, even if you're young and maybe don't think your deeply in love, you will probably relate to feeling 'the emptiness'. You know the time when you're sat in bed alone after the break up and your head seems to want to replay memories of your lover over and over, resulting in you feeling alone. Maybe you haven't even had a recent break up, instead you've been single for a while but find all of your friends are suddenly in relationships, which means you're constantly reminded you don't yet have a partner. Leaving you feeling alone, in fact there are many different reasons as to why 'the emptiness' may creep up on you.

'Wilde Like Me' reminds you that 'the emptiness' is normal, reminds you that others experience it too. Just like many men and woman can relate to the part when Robin meets Theo - a charming good looking man, that seems like everything she needs. The thing is, when you're single and experiencing 'the emptiness' at some point you're bound to meet a guy that your brain will try to tell you he's perfect and is someone you need. This will most likely be someone you already know, or someone you've never met but believe me the desire to have them will be there.

You'll likely go through a phase with this person, your heart will try to convince you that they're good for you and you'll try your hardest to make this lust become love. Only to later realise it wasn't meant to be, you never needed nor loved this person and although it'll be hard to admit it you were just trying to fill 'the emptiness! Wilde Like Me works it's magic and makes you realise you're not alone.

So many people experience 'the emptiness' from so many situations, but you know it doesn't always have to be a bad thing, some times you'll have things you regret but eventually you'll realise they helped you get over it. It's natural that when you come out of a relationship with someone you experience this, as your suddenly trying to get used to life without that person beside you all the time. You have to learn to love yourself all over again, re-build your inner peace and hopefully when the times right you'll find someone who's meant to be. I'm a big believer in things happen for a reason and so never ever regret anything from your past, as it helps you be you.

I would never have thought that when I picked this book up on impulse, I'd feel the need to write up on it or share this blog post, But I did (If you can keep a secret I'll also admit that I also felt the need to message Louise Pentland about her book, but shh about that!) sometimes things happen out of the blue and it's okay. Being spontaneous is part of the fun, there is no need to regret any choices you have made in life because it's what you felt needed to happen at that moment in time.

Whatever your situation if you're facing 'the emptiness' or if that's something you've gotten over recently and it's now just a distant memory I hope you pop down to the shop and pick up Wilde Like Me and allow yourself to get lost in the pages of the book. I hope it helps you realise that you're not alone nor to regret any choices you've made. I hope you realise everyone faces 'the emptiness' from time to time or meets someone that turns out to be the wrong one and most importantly I hope you realise you are never as alone as you think.

Until next time, Amy xx

I'd just like to say this post is in no way sponsored, I haven't been paid nor told to write this blog post, everything I've written is my own opinion and I simply wanted to share my thoughts with you. If you'd like to pick up Wilde Like Me yourself you can do so here: www.amazon.co.uk/Wilde-Like-Me-fabulous-Pentland/dp/1785762931

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