"Life is a roller coaster, no matter what age you are you're going to experience things that change you and things that you learn from."
If you're anything like me, then you'll have realised being in your twenties can be bloody challenging at times. Adult responsibilities seem to just pop up out of no where, your kind of chucked in at the deep end and expected to get on with it. But what you don't yet realise is, the lessons you learn in this stage of your life, so here's why I'm going to share with you 23 things I have learnt at 23.
"Although this post is aimed at everyone of all ages, my hope is to reach the younger generations, to let them read this post and I aim to get you to think long and hard about the choices you make. We've all been teenagers at one point in life, so we all understand the challenges you face from hormones to getting to know yourselves. I personally believe our teenage years help shape the person we become. We've all been through the reckless stage where you think you're invincible and you can do anything and everything."
Today I want to share with you, something that has been in the works for a while. I sit here and say it's been in the works because in all honesty it's been sat within my to-do-list and not moved, you see normally I'd just go ahead as soon as I'm inspired and publish my thoughts there and then. But to me this one's different, it's one that I'd put off in fear of the response I'd get, not because it's something I shouldn't share, with you, because this is damn well important and needs to be said, but it may also hit home with a few people.
"Most of the time while you are working on your "side hustle" in hope of making it and being able to make it your full-time profession you're also aware that it may never happen. But if you love it from day one then that won't be the be all or end all and like me you won't mind because you'll still have your very own little space on the internet."
Right now I'm doing something I've always said I wanted to do, it's nothing big like jumping out of an plane (hell no!) but I'd always walk past people doing the thing I am now and say "I wish I could do that, I bet it's so productive" believe it or not I'd always wanted to sit in a quirky little coffee shop, tucked away in the corner
of a street.
I can't tell you why, but the thought of it sends my over active mind spinning with creative excitement, so here I am on a Tuesday afternoon sat in a cute little coffee shop sipping on my Frappuccino with pen to paper. The Wi-Fi is slightly worse than I imagined, but that's okay because the less distractions the better. There's something so special about sitting here drinking my Frappuccino and letting inspiration flow naturally.
"As embarrassing as those time are now I'm 23 I'd be lying if I didn't say that some of those years where the best of my life, back when N-Dubz were cool, S-Club 7 were probably big and we can't not mention the Jane Norman bags that took over school."
I got thinking the other day about growing up, something we all go through and something that we all experience. Everyone experiences a different childhood and most of us get to an age where we are finally aloud to go to the park alone, just you and your friends; the rule back then would be to return home once the street lights are lit. Usually £2 would be your daily limit so you'd stock up on Fredo's (before they became a pound!) and have a whale of a time on the park.
You see there's some memories of thing's we as kids used to do without a single person blinking an eyelid, try that in 2017 and goodness knows what would happen. It seems the older I become the worse this world becomes, does peace even exist any more? I can no longer walk down certain streets without feeling slightly on edge, let alone the whole smiling at strangers thing that's gone out the window.
I guess danger along with anxiety has become a way of life, we have slowly somehow adapted to the fact we aren't always as safe as we'd like to think; I guess things change ey. Anyway that's not something I wish to focus on here, I think it would be much better to focus on "old times" instead. (sounds fun to me)
"At some point in life you are likely to experience a break up, even if you're young and maybe don't think your deeply in love, you will probably relate to feeling 'the emptiness'. You know the time when you're sat in bed alone after the break up and your head seems to want to replay memories of your lover over and over, resulting in you
I decided to have a little break after publishing
a-daughters-perspective. to be totally honest I was a little blown away from the response this post received, this was a very personal post and slightly different from the others as I focused purely on myself. I wasn't sure on what to expect when I hit publish, it's safe to say my views sky rocketed and messages came flooding in. So just quickly it's only right I thank those of you for reading this post, to those of you who reached out to me and just genuinely for the support from you guys; it honestly blows my mind! I'm so truly grateful to be able to share the things I do on my little internet space, be able to do so without feeling judged badly is incredible and I hope you guy's realise how
much I appreciate you.
"I'm not sharing this for sympathy, for a cry for help nor to let anger out, I share this because I wish so deeply I'd had the opportunity to read another's story with battling cancer, as a relative and not the diseased. I share this because I wish this whole journey hadn't felt so lonely, so strange and so unknown."
Things changing in your life can be scary, sometimes plans don't work out, things go wrong or all of a sudden you're in an unexpected situation. Recently things in my own life have been changing, much quicker than I ever expected. I for one know I've not been feeling all that great about this change and I've probably let it effect me a little too much.
When I talk of change I mean things like; accidentally falling pregnant, not passing an exam, not getting the job you wanted, having an accident or falling unwell - These are changes that are common and usually you'll fall victim to these changes at some point in life. Unfortunately cancer has become common, many people in the world have cancer, it's estimated that each year 12.7 million people discover they have cancer.
"You don't have to be like everyone else in order to feel confident, but if abs are your goal then hell yeah work your butt off to achieve it or if you are curvaceous then you post as many pictures as you want that capture those curves and own it!"
How many of you stand in front of the mirror and are unhappy with the reflection staring back at you? How many of you have an image in your head of the "perfect body"? Is there something you wish you could change about your body? Boy's are you comfortable to take your top off on a hot summers day? When someone looks at you, do you presume they like what they see? I'd love for you to think long and hard about these questions and answer them honestly in your head.
"It's like when you're getting ready for a night out, you're rummaging through your wardrobe for the perfect outfit, yet everything you put on you worry about. "Does it look good enough?" "Does to cling to the parts I don't like?"
If there's one thing I've always exceeded in since I can remember, it has to be worrying. I don't just mean I worry occasionally, I worry every single day about absolutely everything I possibly can. I know I'm not the only person in this world who always worries, which is why I want to share this with you.
"3 years ago, I'd find myself saying "I'd love to do that" or "I wish I had the guts to try and do that" and that's as far as i ever really went. I didn't know a single person who dreamed of similar things to me, nor someone who felt they could do more in life other than the typical 9-5 job."
Here I am again, music on, beverage in hand ready to get stuck in - although today it's a cider not coffee but hey sometimes you've gotta change things up a little right? I'm here with you today to once again share my thoughts with you and basically ask for your help on this one.
As you know I share everything and anything with you, because that's what I enjoy and intended to do from day one, I'm currently sat in my garden I'd planned on tanning while I work.. but that's not gone to plan as its an overcast hell - typical! But whatever I'll make do with what I have.
"I know the day's going to come, I don't know when but I'm hoping it never does, all at the same time. It probably makes no sense to you reading this, as it doesn't even make sense to me! Again it's something I can't explain."
Today I'm writing with the purpose of sharing some real fucking shit with you. This is by no means a cry for help, me asking for sympathy or anything else you may chose to label this as, but to be totally honest it's real shit that I wanna share. This isn't going to be filtered, edited to look better or any of that bullcrap, I'm letting it flow the way it did onto my page in my notebook at 3am. (yes that's right, I couldn't sleep so I decided to do what I do best - write)
So if you're not here to hear some real shit then this isn't the post for you. (I'm also sorry if you don't like people that use swear words, but it's the only word that springs to mind)
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