"Everyone's blog is unique to them, as are their goals, aspirations and dreams, which is why I believe there is no such thing as right or wrong way to do things. We all have to start with our 'WHY' that 'WHY' is the reasons behind everything, from keeping us going and believing in ourselves and so much more."
Welcome back my lovelies, I sure as hell have missed my blog but most important;y I have missed this feeling. The feeling of writing in my notebook, my little space; I don't want you guys to think I'm crazy but honestly the feeling I get from writing is something so special and something I don't think I'll ever be able to explain.
I know that right now I'm probably the worlds worst blogger; considering I've been so MIA. There are thousands of other bloggers out there that you or I can follow along knowing their posts will be consistent each week. To me being one of the 'smaller bloggers' is like being a tiny fish in the sea!
Today I'd like to talk to you about something that's quite controversial, but hey this is my opinion and I'd like to put it out there so bare with me here. Blogging right now seems to be focused on one main aspect; followers, likes and subscribers. I personally feel this can be so damaging to us within the industry and that's why I'm here sharing this. Blogging should be all about the posts you're writing, the goals you have and the WHY behind you starting, yet we seem focus more on numbers than the quality of the blog posts shared.
We all know numbers help, they play a big part, but that doesn't mean I like the way it seems to be. I wish it wasn't focused on numbers because it puts so much pressure on us 'smaller bloggers'. Sometimes it sure as hell can get you down and I know this because I've been there, it seems that the 'bigger bloggers' make this whole industry seem easy to anyone who isn't actually trying to become or be a blogger. I don't want to seem like I'm just bashing others because of course that isn't and never will be my intention, however I know that on many occasions I personally have reached out to the 'bigger bloggers' through various platforms. You know sending them messages full of support, asking questions or even advice, but the sad thing is 90% of the time it'll be ignored.
Obviously we all know how busy this industry can be, I understand that; it's hard enough not doing this full time. 'Big bloggers' go to events, have meet ups and are always so friendly with each other. Outside of that circle however, it's hard to feel that some of the 'bigger bloggers' are routing for you; unless you have a big number beside your social media. It's a shame because in my eyes I'd like to think that the blogosphere is supportive of everyone within.
Unfortunately it's becoming easier to put us 'smaller bloggers' down via NUMBERS! As I write this, I realise I'm not the only girl who's trying to make it. Hell no, no matter what industry you're in at some point you're trying to improve and get better or more successful within it's normal to strive for more. In fact I'm sure everyone goes through stages where they put themselves down because you feel you should be doing more.
Everyone's blog is unique to them, as are their goals, aspirations and dreams, which is why I believe there is no such thing as a right or wrong way to do things. We all have to start with our 'WHY' that 'WHY' is the reasons behind everything, from keeping us going and believing in ourselves and so much more.
I know first handedly that sometimes it's so hard not to compare yourself to other bloggers, with social media it seems like it's constantly in your face. From Insta stories, Instagram grids, tweets and snap chat, bloggers naturally want to take you along to events and keep you up to date with their day. As I said before this isn't me trying to bash others, its just me telling you how it is.
However when you're feeling knocked down by others it's because you're seeing that person as competition and your comparing yourself to them. Sometimes it's easy to look at others in a negative way, but you'll only ever stop when you're able to recognise you're actually doing it. Instead of looking at someone and comparing yourself in a negative way, use their success as motivation to do more yourself.
Everyone has to do what's best for them whether that means putting out one blog post a week or three, the main focus should always be quality over quantity. I know I've gone on a little ramble here about the blogosphere but to me this is relevant in all careers, as you're always going to have someone you compare yourself to. The problem though, is when you're only ever putting yourself down, feeling rubbish and like you're not doing enough due to someone else. I know it can be so easy to focus on the negatives and over look the positives in life.
There is no right or wrong way in life, just do you and stick to what suits you; right now absolutely anything is possible and that's something we need to realise. Everyday people are told they can't achieve something out of the ordinary, when in actual fact it's bloody possible.
"I haven't blogged or filmed for my YouTube channel for over two weeks, although I feel seriously guilty about it, I know that I can't crack under pressure. All I can do right now is things as and when they're possible, I can't plan or focus on what's ahead it's all about here and now."
.No matter how crazy you think your dream sounds to others, no matter how many people tell you it isn't possible, have self belief, try your hardest and I guarantee one day you'll look back and say 'I MADE IT. Unfortunately no matter what you're always going to face people telling you things are impossible, you'll have a select few people that simply won't ever support you, but that's okay because you have self belief. It's YOUR dream not theirs and you don't need everyone to support you in order in it happening.
Comparing yourself to others will never benefit you, it will never make you any better at what you're trying to do, instead it'll eventually simply leave you in a negative rut. This is why I'm here writing this, because honestly I've been in this situation myself and come out the other side with more understanding.
I won't lie it's a horrible thing to go through, it's soul destroying and really can bring you down, Only now that I've learnt to stop comparing myself and instead feel inspired do I personally feel better. I no longer focus on numbers, instead I've decided if I like a photo and how it looks on my Instagram grid; sod the amount of likes or comments below.
I'm sure by now you're all aware of the Instagram algorithm problem, meaning less people see your posts no matter how many followers you have. If you're on Twitter than I'm sure you've seen bloggers moaning about this. I do feel for full-time bloggers who's careers are based off social media because things like this must be so scary. for them. However the truth is, the algorithm is effecting everyone right now, so a few people maybe need to stop letting it get to them so much. Yes it's annoying but it's not the end of the road, instead of focusing on the likes do something more productive with it.
It's a real shame that this is happening with Instagram, but receiving less likes doesn't make you any less successful and that's what people need to realise. At the end of the day there are bigger problems in the world than numbers across social media and that's what I want you to realise. Stop getting so hung up on the material things, do more for your mental health, spend more time with family and appreciate today.
When things are put into perspective, you'll realise what is important to you, this is happening right now for me personally and this is probably my wake up call. Mum's never getting any better, she may never even return home from Arthur Rank and so now is our time. Our time to ensure she gets what she needs, our time to spend every moment possible beside her and we won't ever get this time again.
I haven't blogged or filmed for my YouTube channel for over two weeks, although I feel seriously guilty about it, I know that I can't crack under pressure. All I can do right now is things as and when they're possible, I can't plan or focus on what's ahead it's all about here and now. I know that throughout this time I may loose some of my readers, followers and subscribers, but I know that most of you will hopefully be understanding of my situation. I can only hope you'll stick around and get excited for new posts, because well if I'm putting up a blog post, it's because I really couldn't resit not to.
It's hard for me to accept I'm missing out on upload days, it's hard knowing I haven't shared anything here in over two weeks because for me this is what I LOVE to do. This is the fire inside my belly and I'd hate to jeopardize my future in the blogosphere. However I'm trying to remind myself that social media will always be available, as will my blog and so the numbers do not matter. Love, passion, family and happiness are the most important factors in life and it'll always be that way. IGNORE NUMBERS, move on from that negative mindset instead focus on living a happy healthy life.
I hope you've enjoyed this post, found it useful and took something away from this, remember if you have any particular things you'd like to share you can do so in the comments section.
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